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abortion due to club feet?

Discussion in 'Ask your questions here' started by Unregistered, Apr 18, 2011.

  1. Unregistered

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    I'm posting this question to get your true honest opinion, not to be judged. I am 20 weeks pregnant with my second son and was just told that it looks like he may have one clubbed foot. I'm going in next week for more testing. Since I found out, I have been doing a lot of research on the subject and spoke with people who went through similar situations... At first I thought it was something simple that correctional devices and simple surgery can fix. However, after hearing about all these ongoing problems due to the condition and a lot of people not being able to live the way they would like to, I am very concerned. So concerned that I am considering giving up the baby. Am I totally wrong for thinking that? I am not strong and I cannot bear to see my baby go through pain all his life. You may think I'm selfish in thinking so but, again, I don't want to be judged. Just facts and honest truth about how difficult it is for you as moms... Thank you...
     
  2. Unregistered

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    Ask yourself this.
    What if you had a child who was 'perfect" in every way. Then one day, your child had an accident where they damaged their foot. maybe they required amputation, maybe the foot was permanently deformed. Would you give that child away? would you consider euthanasia (if it was legal where you live)?

    I hope your baby is ok. And if it comes to it, I hope that you can make a decision that you can live with.
     
  3. Unregistered

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    I live in South Africa and am a mom of a 14 year old boy who was born with both club feet. There is spina bifida in the family and club feet is part of that genetic make up. I had the test done and it came back clear. I am so relieved as I have a beautiful 14 year old boy. He had casts on for 3 months - which were changed weekly and at 3 months he had surgery and casted for a further 2 months with pins in his feet. At 5 months he was out of casts and has no recollection of the operations or the pain. He does now suffer with ankle pain after being physically active, but with physio and a chiropractor he manages it well. My advice would be to not abort. This is a deformity which can be fixed and they lead very normal lives. People are astounded when I tell them he was born with club feet. The only thing he is self conscious of his his lack of calf muscles. He has very skinny calves but luckily both his feet were clubbed and so they both look the same. I know of people who's children have had one club foot and they do have a problem with shoe sizes etc and one calf being much more developed but in terms of a happy, healthy life, my son does everything every other child does. He walked at 12 months, crawled at 9 months, sat at 6 months. I shudder when I think that I would have aborted had the test results come back positive. I hope you make the right decision and as long as you have a good support structure you will be fine. Please keep me posted.
     
  4. emma

    emma Guest

    Hello. My name is Emma and I am 19 years old. I was born with a severe club foot, and have undergone several operations when I was younger. But do you know, I really didn't mind. Yes, it has been painful, yes, hospital visits weren't fun, and yes, my left leg is a different shape and size to my right, but it has never stopped me in any way. I'm currently training to be an actress, and can run around and jump like everybody else on my course. You may have already made your decision, but if you haven't, please consider that just because a person might have a minor disability, it doesn't mean that they can't have a perfectly happy life. I shudder to think that I could have been aborted simply because of my leg, because I love my life. if anything, my leg makes me more determined and drives me forward to achieve things. As a parent of a child with a club foot, you will need to be brave if they have operations, because I'm sure it's not every parent's idea of fun, but think of all the laughs and joy that child will bring you in return. I hope everything works out for the best.
     
  5. mattar12

    mattar12 New Member

    Our first child, James is now 4 months old. He was born with club feet(both). We were just as scared as you are when we found out...about 5 months into our pregnancy. But the treatment has evolved so much. Research the Ponseti Method, it has significantly better results than the old method of surgical ligament lengthening.

    Please look at our family's website www.theRiordans.org you can see pictures of our son and some videos of him. You will see....he is not in pain. The treatment is only painful when the doctor manipulates his feet, but it is not terrible. James does not mind the casts at all. They have become part of his personality if you ask me.

    Ask me any questions you have. I will be glad to help you. You aren't wrong for feeling scared, I was just as scared...I cried all the time...but now that James is here, I realize...It is not NEAR as bad as it was in my mind!

    Kate

    www.theRiordans.org
     
  6. Unregistered

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    To the original unregistered user.

    I hope that whatever decision you have made more than a month ago has been the right one for you.

    I personally think that this is a reasonable question to ask. I myself, 26 years old born with an extremely bad club foot in the 80s meant extreme surgery and pain. Today at 26 I still have a lot of pain. But you deal with it. The surgery that they do now, is far far better than what it ever was. My doctors even comment how badly they messed up my foot 20 odd years ago.

    I myself have questioned whether to have children. It is genetic in some cases, most are idiopathic, so without a known cause.

    Just a small insight into my life though. Yes I have a club foot and yes I will never be a runner, I'm not aloud to play any high impact sport anymore, but everything that has held me back on the sporting front has made me a stronger person. I don't believe in the words "I can't do something". I am nearly finished my PhD in Science, helping children and families of people with Autism - now that is a difficult thing to deal with.

    Whatever decision you have chosen, I am sure will be the right one for you. But know with any child, physical disability or not - they aren't going to be perfect in every way.
     
  7. Unregistered

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    I was born with TWO severe club feet and underwent several surgeries as an infant.

    In my life, i was teased for walking different and having skinny legs....BUT, i played baseball, basketball, and golf. In fact i was scouted by the Los Angeles Dodgers! I graduated HS near the top of my class, went to college, grad school, and medical school. Now i am a practicing sports medicine doctor at age 34. Guess what? I still play baseball, i run, i play basketball, and have done 3 rounds of P90x.

    If that is not enough to show somebody that people born with club feet cant do athletics and contribute to society, i dont know who can.
     
  8. Unregistered

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    I am 38, born with a severe condition on both feet, with extensive surgery when younger to correct via fusing the ankles. Although my lower legs and ankles are scarred and it looks like I have had jack the ripper work on me, I a very proud of the fact that I came through this. My parents went through tough times with me, refused to have calipers and god knows what other devices as they did not think of me as being disabled. Legally I am disabled and I could exploit this to the nth degree, but I do not consider myself to be. I do have continuing issues that cause me to not be able to walk for days, but I toughen up, work through the pain and come out a better person. My family treats me different and decide not to do things if they feel it would hurt me, but I tell them that I just a normal person who like anybody else after a long walk, or extended standing up, gets tired and I try not to make it ruin my life.

    If I was aborted 38 years ago, I would not have met my beautiful wife who loves me deeply for who I am, not what I am, and helps me through those rough patches. I am grateful for being alive.

    The dilemma (or hypocrisy) is if I was to have a child and I knew that they had club feet would I want them to live the life I had? The answer to that is no. I do not wish what I have on anybody in the world, but then as people have pointed out I could have the most perfect child in the world and then one day they get hit by a car and they lose a leg or an arm. Life is full of uncertainties and I guess I am going to have to face that one day when we start a family. Yes, I am hypocritical for saying what I said before, but it is my life and I am doing it the best way that I can under the cards dealt to me and at the end of the day it is up to you to decide what is best for your family based on the facts presented.

    I hope you made the right choice, the one that came from the heart, not one that came from others.
     
  9. Natasia

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  10. Natasia

    Natasia Guest


    I honestly can't comprehend how you could even consider abortion in that circumstance considering your personal experience. If you like being alive why would you deny that to someone else because of their feet?
     
  11. Wjmartin

    Wjmartin New Member

    What a difficult dilemma, I hope it works out for you.
     
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